Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Answer this!

Why is that people expect perfection out of someone who is trying to change for the better?

Changing is evolution..a process that needs to be consciously worked on.
I water that plant with meditation... writing, introspection etc and almost every time... working towards my goal..

So far, all the times, the results have been great and I see my slowly and surely - getting there! and I know that no matter how long it takes, its for ME .. ALL about ME.
I have nothing to prove to anyone!

Yet, I fail to understand why the people around me are looking for a perfect 'me'...now that I have spoken of these efforts...

Its like... I get crucified for my small faults and small mistakes and occasional slip ups MORE..!than my good behaviours and moments..
where is the applause then??!!

Why?!!

Dont I deserve to take some...if not a lot of.. time?
And aint the fact that I am working towards this awesome life a thing good enough to deserve a pat of the back, or an encouraging word, a gentle nudge... every now and then??

Since when did we demand perfection from each other..??
....instead of simply encouraging and cheering as our friends trudge along the difficult path of self -change?

And since when, are we labeling people, based on their behaviours say 5% of the times?
What happens to the 95% moments...where I have been no less than fabulous..?
Hmmmm....??

I dont yet know how to deal with it, being on the receiving end of this constant evaluation...and having had my faults and slip ups glorified more than my good times...

But I do think.. people need a perspective change.

They will better off and benefit far more by making friends, helping out,and also doing some introspection of their own about their faults ...
Think before you point a finger...

(sigh)***

And I am a human being too..... is all I am saying...

....you know?

-i

5 Opinions/Comments/Thoughts:

Mega8815 said...

WTF?!?!
Yeah i ask wtf yet i know where you're coming from. At this point in my life i feel like the boyfriend only sees my faults and not all the good i do for him. All the effort i put into things regarding 'us'. Why do I have to be perfect? Why can't you accept me like I am? Right now? I'm trying my best but quite frankly I probably won't ever be perfect, so get over it.

Try that one on them.
Good luck sweetie!!

Indrayani aka, Indi! said...

EXACTLY!!!

Parv Kaushik said...

well thrs a saying tht people always remember the goal you miss. thy never tend to appreciate how many times you saved it.

and indrayani always remember there are no statues for critiques!!!

Indrayani aka, Indi! said...

@Parv: Thats so right!!! Loved the last line!!
:D

Prasanna said...

Hey Indi!! Why are you bothered?? I hope you are changing for yourself and not to satisfy anybody(ofcourse we cant do that ever). So let them tell all they want. I've been like this for a while now and you know what, its funny to listen to critics.. You will enjoy it in few days of time!!!

Post a Comment

Go Ahead.Tell me what you think... !

Listen to My ragas...


Get a playlist! Standalone player Get Ringtones